Soft Girl Season: Sisterhood, Support & The Serenity of Choosing Ease by Tatenda Nyanyira

Sis, let’s talk. There’s a concept I’ve wrestled with—one that felt foreign, maybe even a little indulgent, at first. The idea of living a soft life. Maybe it’s the way we were raised, the world we live in, or the way we’ve come to wear our struggles like badges of honor. We’ve learned to endure, to push through, to hold it all together. And somewhere along the way, that endurance became our identity.

I know I’m not alone in this. So many of us have played the role of the strong friend, the one who carries the weight, picks herself up without missing a beat, shows up even when she’s depleted, and sacrifices her peace in the name of love. But here’s the truth we don’t tell ourselves enough: Just because you can carry it all doesn’t mean you should. Strength is beautiful, but it’s not the only thing that defines you. You are meant to be whole. And that means making room for your softness, too.

Sisterhood Over Struggle

We live in a world that glorifies the hustle—the constant grind, the endless pursuit of what’s next. Degrees, careers, relationships, family, purpose—society will have us believing we need to excel in every area, all at once, or we’re somehow falling behind. But let’s be real: whose timeline are we actually on? When we measure ourselves against the world’s expectations, we forget that our journey is divinely crafted, not dictated by comparison.

This is where sisterhood comes in. Because as much as we hold each other accountable to our goals, we need to hold each other accountable to our peace, too. That means reminding each other that rest is not laziness. That ease is not weakness. That joy is just as worthy of pursuit as success. We don’t just celebrate the grind—we celebrate the growth.

Softness is a Strength

Here’s what I know for sure: I have a Father who fights on my behalf. And because of that, I don’t have to exhaust myself chasing people, things, or opportunities that were never meant for me. The pressure to show up every day swinging? It’s unnecessary. There’s a time for war, yes, but sis—it’s not every day.

I once read that soft girl season is about trading survival mode for peace. And I felt that. Because when we let go of the need to constantly prove ourselves through struggle, we make room for something better. We make room for the stillness where divine direction speaks. We make room for grace—the same grace we so easily extend to others but hesitate to give ourselves.

So this season, I’m making a choice. If it doesn’t come with peace, joy, or alignment, I don’t need it. There’s power in treating yourself with the same gentle hands you use to care for others. There’s liberation in releasing the idea that suffering equals strength. And there’s beauty in showing up—fully, authentically—as the woman you are today, not the one the world pressures you to become.

So, sis, let’s hold each other accountable—not just to our dreams, but to our peace. Because the life God has for you? It won’t require you to overextend, overwork, or overprove yourself. It’s already yours. Let’s walk in it together.